From popular lifestyle magazines, television, movies, blogs, and other media aimed at African Americans, love seems to be the most discussed topic.

Whether it’s the sisters dishing it up on the lack of good Black men, or the brothers in turn dissing the sisters for one reason or another, L.O.V.E. seems to elude us.

When it comes to love and romance, we have always taken our cue from the mainstream media.

Rarely have there been any good depictions.

There was the example of Florida and James Evans. Florida represented that school of Black woman who stood by their man in good times and bad, for richer or poorer. Lord knows, they were poor!!!

No matter, they were a Black couple worthy of emulation.

Then we had Claire and Cliff Huxtable.

He a successful doctor and she a successful lawyer.

Although they faced criticism from the Black community because their portrayal seemed far removed from the actual realities of African American life, deep down many of us in the Black community longed for the world of the Huxtables and wished we were one of those lucky kids.

If we had a reason to despair over positive images of Black love, it is off screen where the greatest amount of love run amuck takes place.

The tragic love lives of Hollywood icons such as Halle Berry, Dorothy Dandridge and Diahann Carroll can just as easily be credible as cinematic drama.

These tales of love lost is no fiction however.

Some blame the exquisite beauty of these women as to why they could never be lucky in love.

These women made it seem almost as if Black love was doomed to fail.

On the flip side there were and still are some examples of love surviving in Black Hollywood.

You had the long time marriage of Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee. They experienced their share of ups and downs but they succeeded.

Now we have the successful marriages of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett as well as Courtney Vance and Angela Bassett to prove that love can conquer all.

Superstars Jay-Z and Beyoncé are representing also!

The saddest example of Black love succumbing to the chopping block however is Regina King and Malcolm Jamal Warner.


If ever there was a couple that we could root for, it was those two.

They had everything in their favor to succeed.

They are the same age.

Both were child stars at the same time and managed to overcome the awful fate of so many child stars as they reach adulthood.

Both managed to have successful careers as adults.

Better still, both managed to avoid all of the controversy that plagues some celebrities and the intrusion into their private lives.

For a seemingly match made in heaven, what happened?

Were the pressures of Hollywood too demanding?

It just pains me to see this couple barely make it out of the starting gate to lose the race in love.

Too Bad.

As the old saying goes: All’s well that ends well!!

Until next time….